Friday, August 19, 2016

It's Not Suppose to Be Easy.....

.......that's why it feels so f***ing good. (Awolnation)

It's been a tough week. When I got back from Kansas City I suddenly became very anxious and nervous about moving so far away. I would move to the moon with D if that's where we needed to live and I know it's all going to work out, but still, it's very scary for me. New York is a whole new world and a completely different lifestyle. I've always thought that once you are west of St. Louis it's as if everything slows down and life is at a normal (although fast at times) pace. In New York you have the option to do anything you want, at just about any hour of the day. We aren't living in New York City and things do close where we live, but drive 20 minutes either way and I am sure we could find something if we needed something. We are going from a town of 2500 to a town of 203,000....and don't forget about the other 7.3 million people around us on Long Island. I think both D and I hope to maintain somewhat of our laid back lifestyle. Early on when we were talking about moving I told her that we could turn our home in NY into a little oasis from the world right outside. With the house we bought, I know that is something we can do. We love the neighborhood that the house is in too. We drove around a little the last time we were there and when you leave our  house if you go in one direction that leads you to town and just about any store that you could want and if you go in the other direction you continue into our neighborhood that is sidewalk lined with big beautiful trees. It's the best of both worlds.

So back to tough week....by Friday of last week I was so miserable and just didn't want to deal with anyone or anything. When I get scared or anxious, I tend to turn inward and escape into my own world. I start thinking about things and before I know it I am a complete mess. Last Saturday we went to Denver and I was not appropriate to be in  public. My wife is a saint and put up with me and just let me work through whatever I was going through. I couldn't tell her what was wrong (because I didn't know) so she was wonderful and was patient until I could say what was upsetting me. She then got to work and helped me get back to a more peaceful center. Monday we decided to go to the hot springs and I know that helped and got some of those toxins out of my body. We plan on going back to the hot springs before we leave because I know we will both need it in a few weeks. D reminded me that there is lithium in the hot spring water, so that explains why I always come away so relaxed I am like a limp rag.

Since I was starting to feel better, I spent Tuesday and Wednesday packing everything I could. We are down to the stuff that we use on a regular basis for packing. There are zero options for take out so we are still having to use a lot of our kitchen things. After 5 years in a town with almost no restaurant options and one really bad grocery store, you run out of things to eat and to fix. This last month or so of us being here I feel like I am starving. I know all the good food that lies ahead of us in New York (another reminder to find a good gym there) but right now it seems so far away because nothing I am eating here in Colorado is satisfying my need for good food.

The last few months in pictures

Our new home sweet home

The new view out the front window

Little Love is always calm and easy going

Lizzy enjoying the lake in July

Beautiful Colorado Wildflowers

I adore them

Oak Tree at new house



See you next time!


Wednesday, August 10, 2016

KC-PB-NY

So, yeah, we are moving. There are moments (like right now) where I can't believe we are actually moving out of the mountains. My pwdrgrl is leaving her mountains and we will rejoin society when we move to Long Island, New York. We have had the best life here in the mountains. I moved here a little over 5 years ago and it's been as if we have been on this 5 year honeymoon, up in the mountains away from everyone, but now it's time for us to move close to family and friends and a place where I can work in the one of many areas of social work that I enjoy. Plus, we are going from living at 10,200 feet above sea level to being at sea level. We have decided that oxygen is a good thing and there's just not enough up here at the top of the world. When we go down to sea level (or anything lower than 6,000 feet), we both feel like we can run a marathon. When we visit New York, I never need as much sleep and I wake up ready to go. After being here for 5 years my body is just really tired. The altitude has been a great thing for me because it has allowed me to totally adjust the way I eat. It has been necessary for me to drink at least 8 or more cups of water a day. I learned quickly that once you become dehydrated the altitude sickness can take over and you feel miserable. Living at high altitude has also caused my appetite to completely change. For the last 3 years my appetite has been cut in half. When we go places people are shocked that Dede and I share many of our meals. It's not uncommon for her to cook one pork chop and we will share it and then have a veggie. I feel like I have learned how to re-eat and how to make better choices overall. I still have days when I am really bad and don't eat well, but that feeling doesn't last long like it used to.

Leadville will always be something special to both of us. We were married here and this house is where we fell in love. I still remember sitting in the exact spot I am in right now when D came over and told me she loved me for the first time, we learned how to live together as a couple in this home, we welcomed pets into our family and said goodbye to several. When we got married one of my co-workers made us a sign from wood in her backyard that has our names, the date we got married engraved into the wood. And it has Leadville, CO carved into it. I knew that we probably wouldn't stay here forever, so when we got this gift I knew it was going to be extra special since it says Leadville.

We are trading the mountains for the ocean. Our life is going to be completely different and we will friends and family just down the road....it's been so long since I have been around any family (2007) that is there for you. Everything is going to be so new for me. D has lived there before (it's been almost 30 years, but some things never change) but everything is going to be so new for me. I have decided that I will be lost for at least for the first year....it's a good thing that I don't usually get too upset about being lost. For me, it's the only way to really learn.

New York has always always had a special place in my heart. My maternal Grandmother was born and raised in Brooklyn and I was told stories about her growing up and I feel in love with New York from all her stories. Plus, the Watchtower Tract Society was based out of Brooklyn, NY until just a few years ago, so I was taught that this was the most holy place in the world. The first time I visited New York was in 1987 or so when I went to visit a friend from summer camp that lived outside of NYC in New Jersey. It was Thanksgiving and they took us into the city that weekend and I was just in awe of everything that was NYC. I visited that friend one more time, this time in the summer, and again I begged for us to go into the city and again, I was in complete awe of everything I saw. I remember it being hot, but I still loved everything about it. On this one particular trip we also went to the beach and I just thought it was so cool where my friend lived.

My ex-husband I visited my cousin J there in 1999; she was living (and still is) at "Bethel" (what the headquarters are called) and when we went to NYC with his parents we made it a point to get the big tour of Bethel. J and her husband lived in a great but very small apartment in Brooklyn Heights where they were surrounded by other young married couples all working for the Watchtower. Again, my love for New York came out and I spent many hours dreaming of what life in NYC would be like.

I decided to start blogging because there is so much going on right now that I want something I can look back on and read my feelings and reactions. I have missed writing so much and there have been so many times that I have wanted to write, but honestly I have been lazy. If I want to keep writing I need to make myself do it. I love writing and sharing my life and stories with others, now I just need to make myself do it!!

Kansas City--Leadville (PB)--New York